Exactly 14 months ago, I was getting my hair-curled and stepping into a lacy white gown from David’s Bridal. My husband (then nervous groom) was trying to make it back to the church in time to put on a rental tux.
To celebrate our year-and-two-months of marriage, we had a blueberry pancake breakfast in bed before work this morning. I am so thankful for this amazing, fulfilling, freedom-giving surprise of a relationship that God has given me. My husband is, literally, a daily gift from God!
Yesterday, as I was clacking over the Moscow River to Smolenskaya station in a metro car I started thinking about all the stuff I’ve learned in our first fourteen months of life together. Looking back, here’s a list – fourteen things for fourteen months!
- Sometimes relationship books don’t help. The silly expectations they set can do more harm than good.
- The challenge of an international marriage is not so much about the cultural differences as it is about the immigration papers.
- At least one of us will always be a foreigner
- Sometimes my husband is right. Actually, I do get it wrong now and then.
- I feel more free after marriage than before! My man is such a rock of support – he makes me feel like I can fly!
- We have great in-laws. What a blessing!
- My husband is great at picking out gifts for boys. This is a very useful skill that I have always been sadly lacking in. He is also, among other things, good at math. As Napoleon Dynamite once said, “Girls like boys who have skills.”
- We have a lot to learn and lots of areas need improvement, but it’s not worth freaking out over.
- Nagging is evil, and it never works anyway.
- Prayer works! It really does. It is always good. It’s also always better than nagging.
- I am so happy to find out that I actually love my husband more and more every day. It’s not downhill after the honeymoon’s over. In fact, I love him way more now than I did on our wedding day!
- I’m so glad to be in a long-term vows-before-God relationship. I need all the grace of an in-it-for-life relationship that I can get!!
- Marriage rocks.
- My husband really loves me. He really, seriously does.
P.S. Reading this over for approval, economist husband came up with another thing that, while not a surprise to me, defies many stereotypes that foreigners have of Russians – there really is such a thing as true love. Not all Russians marry westerners just to get green cards or EU passports!